Making sure you and your partner are both feeling loved is a HUGE aspect of any relationship, and your wedding day is no different. With a day that’s packed full of things to do, pictures to take, and all of your loved ones in one setting, it can be quite hard. Enter Dr. Gary Chapman’s 5 Love Languages! Below, we’ve listed what each love language is and a few examples how to incorporate your and your partner’s into your wedding day! Get to loving!
“To this person, nothing speaks more deeply than appropriate touch.”
- Consider a first touch instead of a first look.
- Make sure your first dance is a slow song.
- Steal some kisses throughout the night.
- Hold hands as you make your rounds throughout the reception.
- Any small touches throughout the day to remind them of your love.
“This language is all about giving the other person your attention.”
- Think about having appetizers or dinner together in a separate room during cocktail hour before you make your reception entrance.
- A first look is a definite!
- Have your own sweetheart table.
- Go the nontraditional route and spend the day getting ready together!
Words of Affirmation
“This language uses words to affirm other people.”
- Vows are big to this love language! Make sure they’re original and from your heart.
- Read your vows to each other privately before the ceremony.
- Write a letter to one another beforehand.
- Include a note with a gift like the bottom of his/her shoe.
- Consider singing a song to your spouse during the reception.
- Also, this doesn’t necessarily have to be towards your future spouse either. Words of Affirmation can also come from your other loved ones who are doing special readings during the ceremony or making heartfelt speeches.
Acts of Service
“For these people, actions speak louder than words.”
- Have their favorite food delivered during the day when they’re getting ready.
- Arrange a surprise for the morning of like a massage or a round of golf.
- Get them a drink at the bar if they’re in the middle of a conversation.
- Make their plate of food while they’re busy.
- Organize & pack everything in the getaway car.
Side note: Your wedding planner may do some of these for you (that’s their job), however, little actions throughout the day will still mean a lot to your spouse-to-be coming from you!
“For some people, what makes them feel most loved is to receive a gift.”
- Surprise them with a live wedding painter to document the wedding.
- Give a notebook full of written letters throughout your engagement or a sentimental scrapbook of your relationship.
- Consider a special piece of jewelry, an engraved watch, or cuff links.
- Get them a signature wedding day scent: a perfume or cologne that will always remind them of their wedding day.
- Amaze them with a book of boudoir photos.
- Give embroidered handkerchiefs for your spouse-to-be or your wedding party too!