Dear The Bridal Guru,
My mother never had a big lavish wedding to my Dad. Although they have been married 35 years and are quite successful, my dream wedding has become my mother’s dream wedding. Unfortunately, we are not having the same dream. Mom wants a big lavish wedding with glitz and glamour. I want a wedding that’s simple and elegant. Everything we look at and talk about is at different ends of the spectrum. I don’t want to hurt my mother’s feelings. She and Dad are so generous and are paying for everything. But, at the same time, everything Mom is ordering and doing is not my style. It’s not anywhere close.
What’s a Bride to Do?
Dear Bride,
In my day, this was quite common. I was told by my mother that when I had a daughter, I could have my dream wedding. Luckily I had three daughters and lucky for them, they had their wedding. My husband and I just agreed and wrote the checks. You need to be honest with your mother. Tell your mother how you feel and what you really want. Let your Mom and Dad know what you have always envisioned for your wedding. I would tell them together becasue Dad might be a good ally and help you in this matter. Maybe, here and there, you can incorporate some things your Mom wants to show your appreciation for all she’s doing. But, you do need to stand up for yourself and tell your Mother how you really feel. Otherwise you won’t enjoy your wedding as much as you could. And, I certainly don’t want there to be any bitterness from you towards your Mother after the wedding. Good luck with everything.
The Bridal Guru
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