With Valentine’s Day being tomorrow and today being Friday the 13th, let’s look at the 13 signs that say, “you’ve been hit by the Love Bug!” Here are the found 13 signs that say, “you’re in Love!”
- “This is the One”
You have found Mr. or Miss Right! This person is all you think about and no one else.
- “I found my Soul Mate…Perfect!”
My wise Daddy once told me, “it’s not what you have in common that’s important; it’s what you don’t have in common that matters. Can you live with that?” All too often we focus on all the positives about a person, totally ignoring the negatives. And some of these negative attributes can be dangerous and unhealthy. You day dream about everything….little gifts, special places, words spoken, private moments and what the future might hold. But you cast aside a short and hot temper, too much drinking, work and other habits, the list is endless. What’s worse some think they can change this person after marriage. Read my lips: not going to happen!
- “Ups & Downs!”
Now the fun begins. It’s like a roller coaster. One day you’re up and the next day you’re down. One day you’re riding high in love and the next day, you don’t know what hit you. You don’t eat; you don’t sleep; you may not go to work; you may go and double your exercise routine; you’re anxious; you can’t catch your breath sometimes. You are up one minute and down the next. But when you are up, what a ride! Some experts compare this to what drug addicts experience…euphoria after the hit and despair when the drug wears off. Have you ever known people that have to be “in love” like this all the time but can’t hang on to anyone? Some scientists believe that being “in love” like this is a form of addiction.
- “We’re in this together”
What’s that quote? Overcoming challenges only makes you stronger. This works for couples in a relationship too. It helps intensify the romantic attraction for each other. And it gives you a common ground that only the two of you share together and not with any others. I know my husband and I have experienced many challenges, obstacles and difficulties in our 28 years of marriage. There were difficult times but it made us stronger both as individuals and certainly as a couple.
- “Obsession”
It’s not just a perfume. People in love spend more than 85 percent of their waking hours thinking/day dreaming about their love interest.
- “Together 24/7”
Once the love bug hits some couples become inseparable. They spend every waking moment together almost to the point of co-dependency. Because of this some go over board with their emotions exhibiting signs of jealousy, possessiveness, anxiety and fear of rejection.
- “Together Forever and Ever and Ever….”
I have talked about this earlier in the blog where one or both day dream about being together forever, creating a family and a life together.
- “I’d do anything for You!”
In a way, people take ownership of their loved ones. They feel the pain or joy and will do anything for them. Sometimes this is good but sometimes it can be disastrous as manipulation can be occurring. Think of the sacrifices parents make for their children.
- “Take Me as I Am”
This doesn’t always happen. People falling in love tend to change their daily habits and priorities. I won’t go to the gym today so I can be with my beloved. Sometimes people in love that are so anxious to please change the way they dress, how they act, even their beliefs, morals and values.
- “Just You and Me Babe”
Of course when you fall in love, your are not interested in anyone else. And you expect the same of your lover, particularly if you are in a sexual relationship, too.
- “Emotional Connection Trumps Sex”
Yes, sex is important in any relationship but it is not the end all. What is most important is the emotional connection that two people feel for each other. You have to be able to talk, laugh and cry together.
- “Crazy in Love”
Yes, you are crazy in love and your emotions are out of control sometimes. You experience this unfound love and passion for another. Where did this come from?
- “Ring of Fire”
Sounds like a Johnny Cash song. But you do have that burning desire. You have that flame that is burning intensely. Be careful it doesn’t fizzle and die. A long term relationship may not be a ring of fire that is hot and blazing, but the love and passion continues to burn. It is based on true love (take me warts and all). It is based on honesty and trust. You accept each other for who you are, the good and the bad, and you don’t try and change the other. Although, I have found that over time you will both change and for the better.
Happy Friday the 13th and Happy Valentine’s Day!